ugh.... and ugh some more..

Every Wednesday, on the way to work, I call my Mother. I try to call on Saturdays too, but I dont always get it done.

Tonight, when she answered, she sounded "off". I asked what was wrong, and she told me that someone had just come to her door. Normally, unless Morgan sends missionaries, she doesnt seem upset by that.

Apparently, this guy she knows, Jay, just showed up. Mom informs me that he had called her earlier that day, asking if he could borrow money. She told him she didn`t have any extra to lend. (she always gives out money to everyone that asks) And that he just showed up at her house, and asked if it would be alright if he charged his phone. (?????) Mom tells me he is in his truck, just sitting in the drivers seat.

I get a bit of history about him from her, as this situation is making my skin crawl; He is a young guy. Does odd jobs for people. Hard worker. Has borrowed from her in the past, many times. Has only paid her back once. Lives no where near her-she lives 12 miles form town, so it is not like he was in the neighborhood. Said he is nice. Says "sorry sorry sorry" a lot, she thinks he may have been abused as a kid. He told her he needs the money really bad for gas. And its his birthday, and its going very bad.

He comes back in when I am still on the phone with her. And asks if he can just borrow $20 from her. I hear her tell him that she spent all of her money last night, but that she will roll him $20 in quarters, but thats all..... Then mentions that she is on the phone with her daughter. He got out fast when she said that.

Mom has a heart as big as the outdoors. I have seen her lend money to people, when it left her unable to pay her bills, or do what she wanted to do. She always says they must need it more than she does. She told me not long ago, that she doesnt keep track, because she figures that when someone borrows it, she will never get it back. Ugh.

This Jay person, whomever he is, sounded like one hell of a manipulator to me. When she was telling me that he was just sitting in the drivers seat of his truck, I think he was trying to figure out how to manipulate her, or intimidate her into giving him money....

I think I need to make another trip there.. unannounced, and soon..... I dont like anyone treating my Mom that way.