The prelude to this ramble;
Our neighbor is a nosy type. He looks over the fence, to see what we are doing, where we are...etc... And he has issues with the property line that divides the two pieces of property. Questions it almost constantly, and even had a surveyor come in. He learned nothing. Except that by law, he doesnt own eight feet of his house, we do. Hm.....
So, he is driving us crazy about it. Gary mentioned to me, last week, about giving him this 3 foot strip of land, that would give him walking room around all four sides of his house. After a lengthy conversation, we decided against it. That is the huge point here, WE. As in the both us us. Two people involved in the conversation. 2
So, tonight, I am cooking dinner, and Gary walks in, and says he has just given (WTH?!?!?!?!) GIVEN them this 3 foot strip of land. And isnt this a great thing? They are going to pay for a new fence, higher, so they cant look over. And they are paying to have the sprinkler lines moved, and they are paying to move the trees we just planted... blah blah blah (my mind shut down at this point) And he he wont have to deal with the lilacs on that side anymore. I said- I love the lilacs. Then, I just shut up.
I knew if I sad a single word, it was over, I would be crying. I was so upset. Not mad. At first, I thought it was disappointment. That I was disappointed in him. Then, I knew my feelings were hurt. We had just talked about this! And decided not to do it. How could he just change his mind, and not say a word to me, and do it? I didnt get it.
So, we were eating dinner, and he got all quiet, and said I was mad, and he got pissy. I told hm no, I am not mad. And I told him how I feel, and why. He kept trying to turn it all back to how great this would be. I told him I wasnt at all mad. Richard (neighbor) got a great deal, and he got a great deal. And that my feelings were hurt by what he did. HE got mad and just went to bed..
So, here I am, trying to figure out what the point was in our having discussed it at all in the first place. ( I asked him that too) What was the point if my opinion meant nothing in the first place?
I might just be mad right now though.. And blowing off steam..... I`m thinking not though.......